Is it just me? Am I the only person that thinks it is rude for people to ignore friends they are with for phone calls and texts? What has happened to simple manners? I’m not talking Emily Post. Just basic smartphone manners for teens and parents so that courtesy is not completely lost.
I’m not sure if we have much of a chance of teaching teens smartphone manners, since they probably all ignore each other and it is so ingrained in the way they live. However, they should still learn them as they do deal with other people in the real world besides other teens. It is actually the parents of teens and other adults whose behavior I find the most shocking. These are adults who for the most part are nice, well-mannered people. However, once they purchased their first cell phones, and then smartphones, they seemed to think nothing of using the phone for anything at anytime, anywhere and with anyone. It was as if all the manners they ever had flew out the window once they had a smartphone on them.
My 10 Rules of Smartphone Manners for Teens and Parents (and actually, everyone)
- If you are alone with one other friend, don’t ever make a phone call, unless it is urgent, or you just need to ask an important question and then get right off. You made plans with this person and he/she is your priority.
- If you are alone with one friend, and your smartphone rings, don’t answer unless very important, and get off quickly, don’t have a conversation. (That is what voice mail is for)
- If you are alone with one friend and you receive a text, don’t return it unless it is extremely time sensitive and urgent.
- If you are with more than one other person, the larger the group, the more leeway you have to do the above. However, it is never okay to spend a great deal of time doing any of the above.
- If you are on your smartphone and in a public place like a restaurant, train, store, etc., please keep your voice down. Nobody wants to hear your conversation. And please don’t talk about personal matters.
- Do not use your smartphone while driving. No texting, no dialing, no talking. It is not only your life you are risking. It is also the lives of the people in the car you might hit.
- Unless you are waiting to hear about a life changing decision, when you are out with friends or family, please don’t keep checking your phone.
- Do not keep you phone out on the table at a restaurant.
- If you have young kids, it is fine to check in with the babysitter. If you have young teens it is fine to check in with them. However, if your kids are grown, you do not need to check in with them when you are out with friends.
- Everything above applies to using your smartphone to send Tweets, Facebook updates, and information to any social media profile.
I know when bloggers and others that work in social media are at events together, this all falls by the wayside, because it is part of the job to tweet, take pictures and more with our smartphones. My rules apply to non-professional social situations. What do you think about these rules for Smartphone manners. Was I too strict? Not strict enough? Do you agree that things have gotten of hand? Would you add anything else to this list of smartphone manners for teens and parents?
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